When pleasing people becomes a goal, we seldom lead people into what is best and are led more by opinions of others than by vision.—Ron Edmondson
If you hear someone being called a “people pleaser” how do you interpret that? Do you consider it to be a compliment, or do you view it as a negative?
We guess it boils down to “why”. Many articles say people pleasers simply want to be liked and they have an over-whelming need to be accepted.
Others say people do it because they lack the courage to put themselves first, they want to avoid uncomfortable situations, and they are unable to deliver tough messages.
7 Casualties Of People Pleasers by Ron Edmondson
- No one is really ever satisfied – It’s not possible to please everyone all of the time
- Tension mounts among the team – People pleasing pits people against one another
- Disloyalty is rampant – People-pleasers say what people want to hear more than what needs to be said
- Burnout is common – Trying to please everyone is tiring!
- Frustration abounds – People-pleasing leads to fractured teams and fragmented visions
- Mediocrity reigns – In an effort to please everyone, the team compromises and no one is happy
- Visions stall – Visions are intended to take us places and this requires change. Change is often met with resistance, and it’s hard for the people pleasers to keep everyone happy
As leaders, how hard is it for you to make tough decisions that won’t please everyone? Remembering that all behaviors and actions must support our vision helps.
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I CAN’T TELL YOU THE KEY TO SUCCESS, BUT THE KEY TO FAILURE IS TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE.—Ed Sheeran